Betrayal and the Path of the Heart

Description

Betrayal and the Path of the Heart provides a framework for using betrayals to open your heart, to better understand yourself and others, and for expanding your consciousness. Our own experiences of coping with betrayal, both in our own lives and in those of our many clients, helped us discover a unique approach for using betrayals as a growth experience.

It’s important to understand the underlying causes of betrayal experiences in order to avoid repeating them. Otherwise you’re likely to make choices that cause you to re-experience betrayal’s painful suffering. Most people unconsciously react to betrayal with revenge against their betrayers, or they become hypervigilant in their intimate relationships to make sure they don’t get hurt again.
This book offers new ways to understand the causes of betrayals. Perhaps you ignored the early warning signs for what seemed to be really good reasons—you trusted too much, or believed the person saw the world or your relationships the way you did. The outcome is that you become less trusting of yourself and your ability to find dependable people.

This book takes you deeper into the understanding of betrayal, helps you make better choices when you experience them, and increases your awareness about their underlying causes. It identifies how distorted views of those closest to help create betrayals. Once you are free from these distortions, you are less likely to fall prey to betrayals again.

Listen here to Barry and Janae’s podcast interview from Dr. Terri Orbuch, The Love Dr. about their book!

TABLE OF CONTENTS

INTRODUCTION – Defines betrayals and includes examples of the major betrayals of the authors.

CHAPTER ONE: BETRAYAL AND THE PATH OF THE HEART – This chapter describes what constitutes betrayal trauma, the developmental sources of adult betrayals and role of betrayals in adult relationships; It also contains a Self-Quiz to identify how much betrayal you suffered as a child.

CHAPTER TWO: EARLY CHILDHOOD BETRAYALS -This chapter defines the two different kinds of childhood betrayals and contains a Self-Quiz to help the reader identify any childhood traumas related to betrayals.

CHAPTER THREE: CHILDHOOD SEXUAL BETRAYALS AS SOUL WOUNDS – This chapter describes childhood betrayal as soul wounds, looks at sexual abuse as a form of betrayal and discusses the sexually addicted society and how it condones sexual betrayals.

CHAPTER FOUR: BETRAYALS IN COUPLE RELATIONSHIPS- This chapter describes the various kinds of betrayals that occur in adult relationships.

CHAPTER FIVE: COLLECTIVE BETRAYALS – This chapter looks at the collective causes and effects of collective betrayals that exist in politics and religions.

CHAPTER SIX: UNDERSTANDING THE LONG-TERM EFFECT OF CHILDHOOD BETRAYALS – This chapter looks at the long-term effects of childhood betrayals and what it takes to heal these soul wounds.

CHAPTER SEVEN: HOW BETRAYAL TRAUMA CAN DISRUPT YOUR LIFE -This chapter describes the ways that betrayal trauma can disrupt your life This include the result of the ACE studies that links childhood trauma with adult physical and mental health problems.

CHAPTER EIGHT: TOOLS FOR HEALING BETRAYAL TRAUMA -Here we describe the effective tools you need to heal your betrayal traumas. This includes ways to locate your betrayals and understand the long-term effects they have had on your life

CHAPTER NINE: HEALING BETRAYALS AS THE PATH TO INDIVIDUATION – Here we show how healing your betrayal traumas can move you on the path to individuation. This includes the steps you need to take to complete this process as an adult in a relationship.

CHAPTER TEN: HEALING COLLECTIVE BETRAYALS – The lsat chapter suggests effective ways to help any betrayal trauma that comes from collective sources like our government or your religion.