By Barry K. Weinhold and Janae B. Weinhold
What is the Partnership Way of Conflict Resolution
The Partnership Way of resolving conflicts embraces conflict as an opportunity for deepening the love connection between people and advancing their consciousness. When we discovered that most conflicts contain dualities that create experiences of separation, we created developmental and systemic tools for embracing and uniting light and shadow or dark inside people so that they can experience more intimacy.
The Partnership Way also emphasizes the role of developmental trauma as a source of conflict, particularly the intractable ones, and stresses the need to clear it from your nervous system in order to stop the unconscious recycling of behaviors.
Weve found that internal personal conflicts often get projected onto others. Carl Jung called these our ‘shadow parts. For example, if a person has an unresolved conflict or trauma from the past, he or she may project the essential elements of that conflict or trauma and see it as existing in an intimate partner or a boss at work. Collective conflicts are formed the same way. Here hidden or unwanted parts of a religious group or a nation-state are projected on another religion or nation-state who seen as the enemy or the source of the problem.
Underlying our approach is an evolutionary meta-theory we call Developmental Systems Theory, which is at the core of LOVEvolution. We recognize and emphasize unconditional love as the force that moves humans forward in both their personal development and their spiritual evolution. When people learn to give and receive empathy, compassion and unconditional love, they move forward in their evolution. When the ability to give and receive love is impaired, people stall in their evolution. LOVEvolution also recognizes the value of devolutionary experiences as opportunities to clear traumas, wounds and karmic patterns. While not always pleasant, these experiences are an integral part of LOVEvolution.
The Partnership Way provides practical, proven tools for resolving conflicts of wants and needs, values and beliefs and conflicts involving deep or repressed feelings. In addition, it helps people find the developmental sources that cause intractable conflicts so that they can resolve these conflicts at their source.
The Partnership Way contains many written exercises and self-inventories to help you identify hidden or unresolved conflicts or traumas, along with simple processes to use in resolving the conflict at its source or healing the trauma. Two reviews of the book are included (above-right) along with central components of the book.
Free Downloads: (coming) The Systemic Nature of Conflict – In this short essay, Barry K. Weinhold, co-author of Conflict Resolution: The Partnership Way, discusses the systemic nature of conflict. Is conflict everywhere or is it just the same conflicts being played out in larger and larger systems
Conflict and Consciousness – In another short essay, Dr. Weinhold describes the relationship between conflict and consciousness. Barry says that we can shift our consciousness by the way we resolve our conflicts.
Teaching & Therapy as Transformation – Facilitating Shifts of Consciousness In this essay, Dr. Weinhold outlines the specific teaching and therapeutic strategies he uses to facilitate shifts in consciousness. He reveals the tools that he has learned from his over 30 years as a teacher and psychologist.
The SOC Inventory – This instrument was developed by Dr. Weinhold to help people determine what stage of consciousness they are operating from when they deal with conflicts. Take and score the inventory to see how conscious you are when you try to resolve your conflicts.
The PTSD Inventory – If you have ever had intractable conflicts that you just couldnt get through, you will want to take this inventory to see if post-traumatic stress played a part in your conflicts. The book shows you how locate the source of these conflicts and then resolve them at their source.
Directions: This inventory is for your benefit, so be as honest as you can in filling it out. We recommend you print this out to make the scoring easier. Place a number in the blank that precedes each statement to indicate how true that statement is for you. Click Here to test your trauma-related conflicts.